How to handle break up during pregnancy?

Oh my gosh, honey, a breakup during pregnancy? That just sounds utterly brutal. I can’t even imagine. Seriously, what a rollercoaster. First things first, let those feelings flood in. Don’t try to be brave and strong all the time, because that’s just not realistic. Cry it out, scream into a pillow (I did that, once, with a bag of frozen peas…don’t judge!), whatever you need. Bottling it up will only make things worse, and trust me, you don’t need more drama right now.

Then… the “what ifs”. Ugh. I remember spending weeks replaying every conversation, every little thing, trying to figure out where I went wrong. It’s a rabbit hole, a total time suck, and honestly? Completely pointless. It’s like, what good does it do? None. Zip. Zilch. So, try – and I know this is easier said than done – to just… let it go. Focus on the future, on your little one growing inside you. That tiny human needs you, and focusing on them will help, I promise.

Surround yourself with love. Seriously. Lean on your friends and family. My best friend, Sarah, was a lifesaver when my ex-boyfriend and I split before our wedding. She practically moved in for a month, brought me endless pizza, and just listened. Let people be your cheerleaders, your support system. Don’t try to be Superwoman, okay? You’re allowed to need help.

And find healthy ways to de-stress. I found that long walks helped, especially in nature. The fresh air, the quiet…it was my little escape. Yoga was good too, even if some days I just ended up crying in child’s pose. Whatever works for you, though. Maybe it’s painting, or reading, or chatting with friends. Just find something that helps you relax and recharge.

Remember, you are not alone. So many women go through this. I read somewhere – I think it was some parenting forum – that something like, I don’t know, a surprisingly high percentage of pregnancies end with a split up… It’s more common than you think. You’re strong, you’re capable, and you’re going to get through this. You absolutely got this! Seriously. One day at a time. You’ve got this.