How do you know if a massage is inappropriate?

Okay, so how do you know if a massage has crossed the line? It’s a tricky thing, right? Because you’re vulnerable, you’re relaxed…you might second-guess yourself. But trust your gut. An inappropriate massage, well, it just feels wrong.

Here’s the thing: it can involve some pretty obvious stuff, like unwanted touching. I mean, you went in for a shoulder rub, and suddenly, they’re, I don’t know, near your hip? Totally out of bounds. Or anywhere near, you know, private areas. Forget it. That’s not okay. And it doesn’t even have to be outright groping. It could be a lingering touch, a caress that just feels…off. Like that time I had a massage and the therapist kept brushing my arm with their hand. Each time they walked by! It was just weird. Made me uncomfortable.

Then there are the verbal innuendos. Ugh. These can be even more insidious, can’t they? Because you’re not sure if you’re misinterpreting. Like, are they really making a suggestive comment? Or am I being overly sensitive? But if someone is making comments about your body – I remember once, a therapist made a comment about how “smooth” my legs were – that’s just creepy. Full stop. It’s not professional. It makes the whole atmosphere just…icky.

So, bottom line? If anything feels inappropriate during a massage – whether it’s the touching, the talking, or even just a vibe – don’t hesitate to speak up. Or just end the session right then and there. You deserve to feel safe and respected. Your comfort and your boundaries are paramount. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.