How do you politely regret an invitation?

Ugh, declining invitations is the worst, isn’t it? You feel like such a jerk! I mean, someone thought of you, they want you to be there… That’s really special. So yeah, I totally get that pang of guilt.

I remember this one time, my friend Sarah invited me to this amazing-sounding cooking class. Italian food, my absolute favorite! But I’d already promised to help my mom with this whole…thing…it was a garden project, I think? Anyway, I was committed. I felt terrible letting Sarah down.

So what did I do? I tried to be super genuine and enthusiastic in my response, even though I was bummed. Something like, “Sarah! This cooking class sounds absolutely divine! Seriously, Italian cooking? You know me too well! ???? I’m so incredibly flattered you thought of me. Sadly, I already have a prior commitment that day. (Mom’s garden domination plans, haha). I’m truly so sorry to miss out, but I really hope you have the best time! Let me know how it goes!” You know, laying it on thick, but honestly.

I think the key is to be appreciative, honest (without oversharing, of course – no one needs the gory details of your prior commitment!), and just… nice. It’s disappointing to miss out, sure, but sometimes you just can’t make it work. And it’s way better to be upfront about it than to flake later, right? Or worse, to go and be totally miserable because you’re thinking about whatever else you should be doing. Isn’t that the truth?