How do you say no to plans you already said yes to?

Ugh, isn’t this just the WORST? Saying no after you’ve already said yes? It feels awful, like you’re the biggest flake on the planet. But sometimes, you just have to. Life happens, right?

What do I do? Well, I usually start by just being honest, even if it’s a little awkward. Something like, “Hey, so sorry, but something’s come up and I can’t make it anymore.” I try to be upfront about why, without oversharing, you know? Like, I wouldn’t go into the gory details of my sudden migraine if I could avoid it, but I might say something like “I woke up feeling really unwell.”

A genuine apology really is key, I think. Because honestly? I hate letting people down. It makes me feel so guilty. So a heartfelt “I’m so, so sorry” definitely helps.

Then, if I can, I try to suggest an alternative. Like, maybe we could reschedule? Or, if it’s something like helping someone move and I suddenly can’t, maybe I can offer to order them pizza the day of or lend them some packing boxes. Just something to soften the blow a little and show I’m not just ditching them completely. Remember that time I promised Sarah I’d help her bake for that charity event, and then my kid got sick? I felt terrible! But I dropped off some groceries and baking supplies at her door, and she was so understanding.

It’s never easy to back out of plans. It truly isn’t. But being honest, being kind, and trying to make amends… it just makes the whole awkward situation a little less awkward. Don’t you think?

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