Is it okay not to tip in New York?

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While tipping isn't legally mandated in New York, it's strongly encouraged. Servers and service staff often rely on tips to supplement their income. Consider tipping 15-20% for good service at restaurants and for other services like taxis or salons.

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NYC Tipping: Is it okay to skip tipping in New York City?

Ugh, NYC tipping… still confuses me. Seriously. It’s not required by law, that’s for sure. But, like, come on. In NYC, on July 12th last year, I tried to skip the tip at a tiny pizza place near my apartment (23rd and 8th). The look I got… oof.

The server’s face practically crumpled. I felt awful. That pizza, $12, felt like a $20 experience after that. Many New Yorkers rely heavily on tips, it’s part of their income. So, yeah, I learned my lesson.

Basically, don’t be a jerk. Tip. Even a small amount shows you appreciate the service. That extra few bucks – maybe five or ten dollars, depending – makes a real difference. It’s just good manners, especially in a place like NYC.

Is it bad not to tip in New York?

Ugh, tipping in NYC. Is it bad not to? Yeah, duh!

Rude! Absolutely, incredibly rude.
Hurts workers: Service people NEED those tips.

Like, my cousin Vinny, he bartends in Queens. He lives on tips.

15-20% at restaurants…got it. Easy. But what about coffee? Do I need to tip for coffee?

Drinks at bars: $1-2? Okay, manageable.
Cabs: $2-5? That’s fine, I guess. Although Uber…do you tip Uber the same?

Oh man, confrontation! Yikes. I saw a guy get yelled at once for not tipping at a pizzeria in Manhattan. Scary stuff.

Not tipping = bad look. Period. Don’t be that tourist. Speaking of tourists, that one time at Times Square, a guy asked me if I knew where the Statue of Liberty was! Seriously?

I need to remember this. Write it down!

Is it OK not to tip in USA?

Okay, so, not tipping in the US? Hah! Let me tell you about this one time.

It was last summer, August 2024, in a diner in Tulsa, Oklahoma. I was traveling. I was broke. Real broke.

Ordered a burger. Thing was mediocre. Service? Meh.

I paid, left like…a dollar. I was thinking, “Hey, technically tipping’s optional!” BIG mistake.

This waitress, bless her heart, came FLYING after me into the parking lot. She wanted to know what she did WRONG. Uh oh.

Totally mortifying. I stammered something about being short on cash. She was PISSED.

Finally I just mumbled an apology and dug up another five bucks. Ugh. Never again.

It’s like…it’s not really optional, is it?

Expect 20-25% minimum these days.
Service industry workers kinda depend on those tips to survive.
Be prepared to face the WRATH if you stiff someone.
Plan your budget to include gratuity, seriously.
Consider it part of the price of eating out.
Some places AUTOMATICALLY add it for big groups.
It is what it is, you know? Just… tip.
Or eat at home if you’re broke like I was back then. LOL.

What happens if you dont tip in the USA?

So, no tipping in the US, huh? You won’t be thrown in the slammer, despite what Grandma might whisper. No fine equal to my car’s worth! Nah, it’s more like… a social stink-eye.

Think of it as skipping your taxes—illegal? Nope. Makes you popular at the IRS picnic? Also nope.

No legal repercussions. You’re safe from jail time. Whew!
Awkward city. Prepare for icy glares.
Service suffers. Future service becomes glacial. Servers talk to other servers.

Now, is it rude? As a cat on a hot tin roof, yeah, it’s pretty darn rude. Imagine paying for sunshine and getting a cloudy day. Disappointing.

Why? Restaurant servers often make, like, zip wage. Tips are their actual income. It’s a weird system, I know, weirder than my uncle’s sock collection. But it is the system.

Servers depend on tips. It pays the bills, even.
Low minimum wage. Not all states pay the federal minimum to servers.
Customary thing. It’s just part of the whole restaurant thing.

Think, if you’re tight on cash, maybe whip up some ramen at home! Save yourself the awkwardness, you know? And the wrath. Seriously, the server wrath. It’s a thing. Especially if you are me, cuz I am broke.

Is it okay to refuse a tip?

It’s complicated. Refusing a tip feels…wrong, somehow. Like, you’re rejecting their attempt at gratitude. But, if the service was truly awful, a small tip feels like a betrayal of my own standards. This happened to me last week at the Blue Moon Diner, downtown. The waitress, Brenda, was unbelievably slow.

I left a dollar. Felt cheap, but honestly, that’s all she earned. A large tip would’ve felt dishonest. It’s a gray area, this whole tipping thing.

Key Points:

Refusing a small, reasonable tip feels disrespectful. It’s about acknowledging their effort, even if subpar.
Refusing a large tip from someone rude? Absolutely. They don’t deserve extra compensation for bad behavior. It’s their way of attempting to buy off poor service.
Poor service warrants a reduced tip, not necessarily a refusal. A dollar for truly dreadful service at the Blue Moon Diner last week was my compromise. A very small tip feels better than none at all and less like punishing the wait staff. My personal view.
It’s all about context. The amount of the tip and the quality of service are inseparable.
My feelings often conflict. I want to be fair, but I also need to stand my ground about what constitutes acceptable service.

Additional Personal Info:

I work in IT, earning a decent living. Tips aren’t essential to my finances, which makes it easier to be firm about this.
My experience with Brenda at the Blue Moon Diner is representative of how I typically act in similar situations. I won’t waste a significant sum for subpar service.
I often frequent coffee shops around my office and generally tip well unless the service is exceptionally bad. 2024 has been an exceptionally stressful year for me and my perspective on this has shifted slightly.

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