Is he using me or does he really love me?

Okay, so, “Is he using me or does he really love me?” Ugh, that’s the question, isn’t it? The one that keeps you up at night, twisting and turning. Been there, totally done that!

Here’s the thing, and honestly, this is just from my own experiences and watching friends go through the same… If he only calls when he needs something? Like, suddenly you’re the go-to person for everything, but otherwise? Crickets. And he doesn’t even ask how you’re doing, how your day was… Yeah, that’s a big ol’ red flag waving right in your face, honey.

Real love? It’s not just about what you can do for someone. It’s about actually caring about you, about your happiness, about your life, period. It’s about wanting to know if you’re okay, celebrating your wins (even the small ones!), and being there when things get tough, not just when he needs something.

I remember one guy I dated… he’d only text when he needed help with his car. Seriously! One time, I was super sick with the flu, couldn’t even get out of bed, and he called to ask if I could drive him to the airport! Like, really? I mean, come on!

So, take a hard look at his actions. Does he consistently show consideration? Does he actually listen when you talk? Does he support your goals and dreams? Or is it all about him and what he needs?

Because here’s the cold, hard truth: A relationship where one person is just constantly taking, and the other is constantly giving… well, that’s not a relationship. That’s a user manual. And you deserve so much more than that. You deserve someone who genuinely cares. Don’t you think? Think about it, you are worth more.