What are red flags in LDR?

Okay, so red flags in long-distance relationships, huh? Where do I even begin? Well, from my own slightly scarred-over heart, I’d say a massive red flag, like the biggest one you can imagine, is emotional unavailability. Seriously, if your partner can’t, or won’t, open up and be vulnerable with you – share their fears, their joys, their silly little thoughts – that’s a one-way ticket to heartache. It’s like, how can you build a connection when you’re only seeing the surface?

And then, of course, there’s the obvious stuff: deception and betrayal. I mean, duh, right? But in a long-distance situation, it’s even more crucial to be honest. You’re not physically there, so you’re relying entirely on trust. And once that trust is broken… forget about it. It’s almost impossible to rebuild, especially with the added distance. I remember a friend of mine, Sarah, she was dating this guy long-distance, and she found out he was basically leading a double life! Can you imagine? All that time and emotion invested, just… gone.

Oh, and here’s another big one: disrespect for boundaries. This can show up in a lot of ways – constant texting when you’ve said you need space, guilt-tripping you for spending time with friends, or just generally ignoring your needs. If they can’t respect your boundaries from afar, how are they going to do it when you’re actually together?

And lastly, let’s talk about communication. Or rather, lack of communication. If you’re constantly feeling like you’re pulling teeth to get them to talk, or if they’re always vague and evasive, that’s a major red flag. Long-distance is hard enough as it is, you know? It requires a ton of open and honest communication to even survive. Without it? Well, you’re basically building a sandcastle at high tide. It might look good for a little while, but it’s not going to last. So yeah, emotional unavailability, deception, boundary issues, and poor communication… definitely things to watch out for. Trust me on this one! Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt (and promptly burned it, haha!).